What I want versus what I don't want.
Funny how my fiancé wanted our wedding to be grand-ier than what I initially wanted and planned. And funny how it comes out from the groom and not the bride.
In "want" versus "don't want" list,
I don't want:
- any bunga pahar/bunga telur or whatever you called it. You know, the things you put at the side of the pelamin to be given out during merenjis ceremony?
- pengapit. I don't see the point of having one (pair), Yet, this is that started the argument. Fiancé had already asked his cousin to be one without even consulting and asking me first, whether I want one. (Bridezilla alert!)
- flower girls or bridemaids. Again, they look pretty but I don't see the point.
- any majlis merenjis. Pelamin is strictly for photography session. But I'm having mixed feeling about this. I'm sure my parents want to merenjis. (Status: KIV)
- inai or inai lukis/ukir whatever. My mom didn't wear inai during her wedding so I don't think she'll object the idea. Oh well, maybe inai just on the NAILS and not on the fingers.
- to wear any crown or head jewellery. Rimas akak noks.
- any un-edible wedding favours. I already veto-ed off mom's idea of giving out potpurri.
- my marriage to be blessed by Allah S.W.T, my family and those that are matter to me the most. Note the marriage and not the wedding?
- my families and guests to be comfortable and mingle with each other during the wedding.
- not to spend much on wedding but rather the life after the wedding itself.
- to held a wedding that is "me" and not some people's idea of what my wedding should be.
- my wedding not to be the cookie-cutter and stereo-typical wedding.
- all in all, a simple wedding that is close to my heart.
I went to friend's wedding yesterday in USJ 5. The bride and groom looked pretty and handsome in their nikah attire. They didn't have any pelamin, just meja pengantin on the stage and yet, the wedding looked so beautiful. The bride and groom mingled around with their guests. The groom (our batchmate) even lepak-ed at our table until his bride stole him away. Hiks.
I mean how sweet is that?
Sigh, sometimes I wonder why is it hard to do something that is out of the norm? I think, I'm not asking much. I just don't want so many things, and it should be easy than wanting most of the things, right?