14/10/2011

Seven Days

On the day that my dear husband is leaving, I read the post that was beautifully written by this lady. Reading through the words, I feel like having a deja vu because there they were - words by words, the thought that has been boggling in my mind for at least 2 months. It's like all these while, she has been reading my mind and pour its content in a way that I cannot seem be able to express.

Yes, I think by now you can already gauge and guess based on this entry and this. We are now in a (temporary) long-distance relationship (LDR).

It's funny when you think about it cos my husband particularly was never a fan of such LDR. Neither do I. Or the rest of the LDR couples. It's not a choice by any chance.

Now it's a different situation. My husband recently was offered a new job which required him to undergo training & relocate to a place 10,000 km away from home for nearly 2 years. And it's not conveniently within reachable distance. I have no qualm about the job offer. I know that it's something that he wanna do since the beginning so I'm totally happy for him.

It has been a week. I am still trying to adjust the fact that I need to be on my own 2 feet again. Not that I haven't been but you know, marriage somehow takes the independent side of you, a bit. So, here I am managing my household alone. Meaning, I have to do all the housework alone and it's not fun! There's gonna be no Cinderella. Sobs.

Maybe I'll follow soon or maybe I won't. This situation will be hard but I believe in Allah, for He knows what is the best for us. And in the mean time, we'll work something that's best for us. Insya Allah.

8 comments:

Wani said...

same T__T I was in LDR for 8 years and LDM came afterwards. I always dirundung kesedihan. Ganbaremashou!

Ami said...

hang in there moose.i went through this for 3 years!nasib ade skype.if i gotta choose,mmg tak nak dah hehe.

Qistin Fadzin said...
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Qistin Fadzin said...

Totally agree with "Marriage somehow takes the independent side of you", especially when he's around - suddenly semua benda need his assistance.

I know it's about 'getting use to' but honestly, I don't want to get use to it. The distance, the lengthy absence. I'm sappy everytime he started packing. EVERYTIME.

And I wish in years to come - I'm still sappy about it.

devilishskool said...

here i was, wondering why in the world my site stats increased by 3 folds?!

haha.

thanks for the kind words *wipe tears*

after almost 2 years together, waving goodbye to him is still hard. i can't smile as i usually would the week before he schedules to leave. rasa berat hati sangat.

before i met him, boleh je pulak kan hidup seperti biasa. haha.

and i have cried myself to sleep before and i doubt it'll get better.

Qistin is right, we should never get used to it.

sya said...

marriage indeed takes the independence in us! we, the wives mostly become so manja and so dependant on the husbands. my prayers that you will have all the strength to go through this. do look on the bright side and keep yourself busy. we're all here to keep you company ;)

The Spasmodic Scribbler said...

Moose, I have beem in a long distance relationship for 7 years plus and I thought a long distance marriage is no big deal. Alah, he works in Melaka only and we've been used to seeing each other during weekends only, so what's the big deal?

Or so I thought.

I didn't really understand until I got married myself. The first time he had to go back, I literally cried and cried. Such a crybaby I know but being married is different.

Now, it isn't as bad as the first time. No more cries but at times, I do wish things were not the way it is now.

I always wonder what if I quit or what if he quits and transfer to KL?

But then again, both of us are not ready to quit and make that sacrifice. He's doing so well over there, I'm doing well here so why temper with that?

In the end, we made that choice. I wish to be with him but I don't want to lose my independence. To be able to earn my own money and buy things I want for myself without having to depend on him.

Maybe I'll change my mind once when I have kids.

The wife said...

be though moose~ pray whats best for both of you ;)