01/04/2013

Our (humble) journey, thus far

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(a long entry waiting ahead)

Bismilllahirrahmanirrahim..

Dah lama nak tulis pasal breastfeeding journey tapi segan nak tulis awal-awal nanti orang cakap, poyo ah kau Moose baru beberapa bulan dah sibuk nak tulis breastfeeding journey bagai. So since I've hit the crucial breastfeeding milestone of 6 months, only now I feel comfortable to write my or rather our humble journey down.

During the seconds when Aqil was born, I was so eager to breastfeed him there and then but unfortunately he had some problems with breathing and was taken to the NICU and I only got to hold him for about 10 minutes. Later that night, we visited him and I still couldn't breastfeed him then because he was on breathing machine and a feeding tube was inserted into his mouth. He was fed with donors milk that night after we signed our consent. The next morning, a midwife came to check on me and taught me how to hand-expressed the milk (marmet). Alhamdulillah, the milk was there and despite a bit clumsy, I managed to hand-expressed about 10ml of the "liquid gold" or colostrum for him. That was his first taste of my milk. His breathing equipment was only taken off on the third day so from day 1, there was no direct feeding. I've tried breastfeeding him on day 4 and because my boobs were engorged, he couldn't latch onto it properly.

To cut the (sad) story short, since he was on feeding tube from day 1, he couldn't latch or rather he didn't know how to latch. Furthermore, he was fed with almost 40-55ml (1.5-2 oz) every 3 hours to maintain his weight and that, leaved him with no room to feel hungry and wanting to "work" for food. I felt very devastated and helpless with the whole situation. Seeing that I struggled to have Aqil latched, a nurse suggested me to use a nipple shield and it worked like magic. He could finally latch on!

Since breastfeeding especially the act of sucking takes a lot of preemie's energy and because of that, our breastfeeding session was kept to a maximum of 30 minutes. The rest, he was fed via tube with the milk that I pumped out. To be honest, when he was at the hospital, because of the amount that was assigned for him, there were times when I couldn't meet up his demand. Remember that we signed the consent letter for donor's milk? I innocently thought that even if I couldn't meet his demand, he will still be on breast milk from the donors. I was shocked when I found out that he was already fed with formula milk after he was moved from the intensive care room to the intermediate care room. Don't get me wrong, there is absolutely nothing wrong with formula milk but it was more like a regret towards the hospital of not informing us of the act.

Since that day, something inside of me snapped. I felt like I failed to provide the best for my baby. I've become borderline obsessed with pumping that I pumped every 2-3 hours instead of 3-4 hours. I'd wake up in the middle of the night to do power pumping. I also tried out every possible milk boosters just for the sake if they could increase the milk production. Dates, red dates & longan tea, nursing tea, milk, cheese, white radish - you name it, I've tried it. Orang cakap usaha itu datang dari pelbagai cara and I was doing every thing that I possibly can. It was draining out my energy but I ignored it because I was partly blaming myself that earlier on I chose to sleep rather than pumping out and my son had to take the consequences and had to drink FM. I didn't mean to offend anyone because this was more of my inner battle coupled with frustration, anger and postpartum hormone imbalance back then.

Breastfriend at the hospital

When he was discharged from the hospital, he was still on the feeding tube and we opted for a home hospital care whereby the nurses will visit and monitor his progress for 2 weeks. I was still pumping and breastfeeding him using the nipple shield. After 2 weeks the tube was taken out and I was finally feeding him directly with the help of the nipple shield. Again alhamdulillah, despite reading the disadvantages of using nipple shield and what it can do to your milk supply, I've never experienced any dropping or shortage of supply. Probably because I don't pump so much (so I didn't know the volume) and just concentrate on direct feeding since I'm a SAHM.

Breastfriend at home

So, when he was about 3 months old, I've decided that probably it was time to wean him off from the shields. There is nothing wrong using the shields but it can be quite a hassle when you're out and NIP. The first few days were frustrating and yes, there were times when I felt like giving up, broke down, stressed out and cry but luckily I didn't. I am just too stubborn to quit. One of the things that you should know about me is that, I must finish what I've started. Winners never quit, I always say to myself.

Then one day, he taken me by surprised by latching on perfectly! I was (and still am) a proud mama. From then on, he latched like a pro and I've never been any prouder and grateful. And we enjoy our breastfeeding journey even more from then on. Even though we've hit 6 months, since he was born prematurely, his adjusted age is only 5 months so technically I still have another month to go before I started to introduce solid food to him. But honestly, I don't feel any pressure to do so. I'm just not ready to introduce solid to him but of course, we'll see how it goes later.

Breastfeeding is a natural process but for some people it may take a lot of work. Our breastfeeding journey was/is a roller coaster of emotions. It takes a lot of perseverance, determination, courage, discipline, patience and doa to come to where we are now. This is such a humbling experience to me and in a way it teaches me that sometimes, you gotta have faith in yourself and your baby as both of you are in it - together as a team. (dah bunyi macam tagline MLM pun ada gak. Kahkah)

Alhamdulillah, we've come so far and like every one else, I'd hope to continue this journey for another 1.5 years.

Yeah, boys (and breastfeeding) rule!


Insya Allah.

Til then, happy breastfeeding!
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31/12/2012

Magic In a Jar

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I rarely do a product review but whenever I did, they are usually the ones that I personally used and loved. And at the moment, I'm in love with this amazing product from Earth Mama Angel Baby that I coined "magic in a jar" because it truly is - magic.

Image via Earth Mama Angel Baby

EMAB Angel Baby Bottom Balm is a life saver and I have been using it for Aqil from nappy rashes, "ruam susu" to even scratches on the face from his tiny long fingernails. Sometimes I even put the balm for no reason just because I love the refreshing antiseptic smell of tea tree oil. I'm a weirdo, I know.

When he was about 3 weeks old, I noticed that he had acne-like rashes all over his face and neck. Although the nurses said that it's normal for babies to have rashes when they were born, but being the first timer & over concern mother that I was (still am!), I decided to put on a small amount of the balm onto his skin and wallah - rashes gone in 2-3 days. Here, in cases of nappy rash, the nurses would advice you to put on zinc oxide but the thing with zinc oxide is that, it'll leave a whitish residue on his skin that I hate seeing and it is hard to get them off. One of the things that I love about the balm, it won't leave any residue. It's like the baby skin absorbs the goodness of it.

If you're concern on putting chemical-laden creams/lotion on baby's delicate skin - fret not, this balm is 100% organic and even recommended by hospitals. It's gentle to the skin and with the 100% natural ingredients, you know that they got your baby's back, literally. Say no to steroid based creams!

Now that you're convinced, where can you get them? I bought mine at Bee Little and so far, they offer the best price for all the EMAB products that they sell. Besides having the best price (that I found so far) in town, their service is also fast and convenient. You just gotta love a seller like that. For 60 ml, Bee Little is selling it for only RM38 (RRP: RM49.90). The price may seems on the high side but trust me, a little application goes a long way. After 3 months of usage, the balm doesn't look like it had been used. Tak luak lagi pun dalam bekas tu. I think 60 ml can last at least for another 3 months or so. So it's worth the money.

Try it and I'm sure you'll love it as much as I do.
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18/12/2012

Nursing In Public

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Never ever I've thought that I would neglect my blog this long but being a new mom requires much of my attention and energy so I need to prioritize.

Semenjak dua menjak ni topik nursing in public (NIP) memang hot eh? I know the issue was triggered by a blogger tapi aku malas nak kisah sebab to each their own, right? Everyone is entitled to their own opinion dan kalau orang tak setuju, buat apa kita bermati-matian membangkang?

It's getting cold here and last week the temperature hit -16C, I know crazy, right! So out of curiosity,  I posted some time ago on International Mothers and Babies Group Oslo (IMOBAGO) about nursing in public.



Aren't these ladies lovely coming up with such great solutions? You feel like hugging each and every one of them after reading those comments.

As I mentioned in the comment above, mothers in Malaysia are considered lucky because most of the shopping malls provide nursing room for mothers' convenience. Here, nursing mothers have to be more creative, you know, what's with the cold weather and lack of nursing rooms.

I was very anxious of the thought of nursing in public initially. A lot of things are going through my mind from covering the aurat to what position should I hold my son. I need to use the nursing pillow every time I breastfeed so the thought of being out of your comfort zone really scares the shit out of me.

Last month, when we went to Stockholm to register my son at the Malaysian Embassy, I was borderline nauseous because I know that at some point I have to do it, I have to NIP and it scares me. We were in the train to the airport when it happened. My son woke up and wanted milk. I am lucky because he is not a big crier so that gives me enough time to not panic and prep. Well, it wasn't t as scary as I thought it would be! Of course it was bit awkward with me constantly adjusting with holding position and all but yes - I can do this, I said to myself.

It was then the beginning of NIP for me. Ever since, I had NIP on the plane, at the airports, in the cafes, in shopping centers, you named it, I did it all without using any nursing cover or poncho. For me, the key point to a successful NIP is a supportive husband. He would be a watchman for me and help me to cover the aurat if it shows but most of the time I would wear a nursing friendly attire so that it won't be such a hassle. I enjoy my time and nursing in public is no longer a scary thing to me anymore

So tell me, how is your NIP experience?
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22/11/2012

Secret Baby Language

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My husband discovered an amazing video on YouTube yesterday that might save your time and energy when handling your baby. I don't know if some of you have heard of it before but I think it's worth sharing here.

It's called Dunstan baby language and was discovered by Priscilla Dunstan, an amazing lady gifted with an acoustic photographic memory. She claimed that all babies in the world speak the same language through their cries and convey their needs through it.

After watching the video astonishingly, Aqil's cries meet exactly as being described. I now can distinguish his needs based on his cries. He rarely cries without reason and whenever he cries, I know something is wrong so using the Dunstan language, I can respond to his needs faster and better.



It's awesome, isn't it?
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21/09/2012

An Email From Stranger

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You know how in Facebook you can join all sorts of available groups kan? When I tested positive, I came across the International Mother and Baby Group Oslo (IMABAGO) and joined them shortly afterwards. I was a silent member but until recently, I decided to post this there:


I received lots of positive feedback from mothers who actually gone through successful natural birth - hypnobirth or not, at the hospital mentioned. None of them replied with any negative birth stories at all, which made me so relief (oh, you have no idea how relief I am actually). Most of them encouraged me to apply for ABC (Alternative Birth Care) section of the hospital where water birth and acupuncture or water for injection as pain relief are made possible but I just think that they're too fancy for me. I have nothing against it but it's just a matter of preference.

What almost send me to tears was, an email I received from a complete stranger who is also an advocate of hypnobirth that's so inspiring that I just have to share it here.

Hi M,

I hope all is well with you.

I am so passionate about hypnobirthing and so wish i had the time to give you the full course but i'll try to give you some of the main tips that i hope can help you and also tell you about my experiences and what i feel is important to know.

HypnoBirthing is all about conditioning your mind to having a positive birth experience. One of the most important things you can do for you and your baby right now is to disregard any of the horror stories that you hear surrounding birthing. If someone starts to say something negative please just say you are hypnobirthing and you would prefer not to hear any negative stories. It serves no purpose to you or your baby. Birth is completely natural and our bodies are so amazingly clever and have been made in such a way that we can give birth to our babies with little or no pain in a very relaxed and natural way. I have done it twice and so i absolutely assure you it is possible.

Can you get a copy of the hypnobirthing book and rainbow relaxation cd from emily on barneting? If not let me know and i'll try to get back the copies that i gave out to my first couple that i taught.

You need to read the book, in particular read about the function of the uterus and you need to read about the different breathing techniques. You have to practice the breathing techniques and you have to listen to the rainbow relaxation CD every single day. It's ok to go to bed with your earphones in listening to it, download it to your ipod it doens't matter if you fall asleep while listening to it. It will be going in to your subconcious and conditioning your mind in a VERY positive way. When i felt my first surge (surge is a contraction, hypnobirthing uses softer language when talking about birthing) i immediately went in to the slow breathing and kept this going the entire birth until i needed to change to birth breathing which is when you breath the baby down the last leg of the journey. i was completely relaxed and got more and more relaxed with each surge despite them getting stronger. It is because i practiced it so much that this type of relaxation became second nature to me.

Learn how to do the different breathing and when you are feeling stressed or have a pain try the slow breathing its amazing how the pain will disappear and you become so relaxed. When you go to the toilet to poo practice the birth breath or slanted j breath, they sometimes call it in the book because this is the breathing you switch to as the baby is about to emerge. Try it and you will see how the poo is naturally expelled using the bodies own natural expulsion reflex and this is the same as when the baby is breathed out (not pushed out) breathed out. The body will naturally expell the baby if it is allowed to do so in its own time.

In norway there are many midwives who are familiar with natural birth and i was very fortunate in my second birth to have such a midwife. She asked me what my preferences were and i said i wanted to be left alone as much as possibble in a dark room and for it to be very peaceful and she sat and observed me and only came to me to help ease the baby out in the last 10 minutes. She knew that i had switched to the birth breath and it was such a quiet subtle change but she knew and that was incredible for me and her.

My first experience was different as the hospital midwife told me when i was on a visit beforehand that she had been a midwife 25 years and there is no other way for a baby to come out unless you push it out - this is absolute nonsense and i wish i had the courage to stand up to that midwife becuase i truly believed it was possible to do it without forced pushing but because it was my first i thought what do i really know. This is where the birthing partner comes in, they have to keep negative influences away from you during hte birth. In my case i had my husband prepped to tell midwives to be quiet if they were disturbing me, i didnt want to hear loud chatting, i didnt want to be disturbed if i was in my zone of relaxation. they tried so many times and it was incredibly frustrating but luckily as the birth progressed my husband stopped them disturbing me more and more.

The course is given to both the mother and birthing partner. The birthing partner has a very important role to play. As i keep repeating birthing naturally is completely achievable but to do it in a relaxed way without feeling the pain takes a lot of practice but its so worth it. Studies show that calmer births do result in calmer babies, The baby is completely affected by their own birthing experience. There are some texts in the book that the birthing partner can use to get you in to a deeper state of relaxation. If you can practice with your partner and get your partner to read some of these to you, in a slow relaxing way (you'll fall about laughing the first time) but if you can do it seriously this is an invaluable tool that your partner can bring with in to the birth to use when needed. For example if you just have some niggling back pain, or you have been distrubed or if you need to go deeper in to relaxation the book gives the scripts that the partner can read to you.

During the birth you can have the rainbow relaxation CD playing. i used this for much of the time as i had conditioned my mind so well to it that as soon as i heard the music and voice i completely relaxed.

The main principal of hypnobirthing is if you are relaxed then your body can use its natural endorphin which are a million times more powerful than any medicated pain relief. Your uterine muscles are made to rotate in harmony with your slow breathing during birth. If you are tense then these muscles tighten and adrenalin kicks in which takes the much needed blood flow aaway from the uterine muscles and cause the flight or fight response. the muscles you need for birth tense up and everything works against you. So, keep calm, if you feel pain don't stress breath slower, deeper, relax more.

Water birthing is fabulous for relaxation and using in combination with hypnobirthing.youtube natural water births and hypnobirths and see for yourself how calm and relaxed these women are its empowering to see.

Wow, there is so much more to tell you, like i say i wish i could help more. if you have more questions please don't hesitate to drop me an email.

I guess the main thing is practice the relaxation!!!

Wishing you a wonderful happy calm hypnobirthing birth for you and your baby.

Sending all positive energy your way.

Best wishes Hannah

If you haven't give hypnobirthing a thought, maybe it's time you do. After all, it's how the nature intends the birth of a child should be.

Sending positive vibes, thoughts and affirmation to all new mothers to be. We can do this!
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02/07/2012

If you don't have it, fake it

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via Cathy Thorne

If you're among those pregnant women who "glow" during their pregnancy, then you're lucky. I don't know if I fall under that category but Alhamdulillah, I am loving every bits of beautiful skin that I'm experiencing throughout the pregnancy.

While some may be blessed with a clear skin, I was sadly not. Zits will never fails to visit me every month during THAT time of the month no matter how diligent I took care of my skin. I have a sensitive and dry skin (sometimes eczema) so apart from relying on external skin care, I took Evening Primrose Oil (EPO) supplement too. It helped but I had to wean it off when I found out that I was pregnant because upon reading, I came across an article that EPO can help induce labour. Though it might not have enough scientific research to prove it, but the fact that I experienced a slight menstruation-like cramps during the early stage when I was still on EPO was legit enough for me.

As mentioned, alhamdulillah, I have clear skin that I always wanted throughout the pregnancy and I couldn't be happier though I'm still doubtful about the "glowing" remarks that I've been receiving because truth to be told, I've been faking it all this while.

The "weapons"

The secret is not exactly a rocket science. I've been using BB Cream, that I normally put on after moisturising, Bobbi Brown compact powder and the ultimate weapon, bronzer! If you have not been introduced to a bronzer, maybe it's time for you to do so. You'd be amaze with how only few swipes of bronzer will give your face that sun-kissed glow. I would usually swipe the bronzer lightly on places that the sun would normally hit the face for example cheeks, jawline and at the temple instead of all over so that you won't end up looking like you've been 2 hours too long under the sun.

So mommies-to-be, I know that it's inevitable that when you're pregnant you feel like a slob but it doesn't mean that we have to be one. So, if you don't have it, start faking it now!
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20/11/2010

Menstruation

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Read this entry with an open mind. The point of this entry is to share.


From the first day that I hit puberty, my menstruation cycle is very regular and consistent. I will without fail have my period within the next 28-30 days cycle. This is convenient for me as I can predict when aunty M is coming to town and give me time to prepare the "necessities" in my handbag and at work. Hehe.

For the last 2 months, I am having my menses at the middle of the month. Therefore I can already predict the trend of my menses. My wedding date is on 25th December, about a week after I get my menses. The next cycle (in January) is however coincides with our honeymoon trip! Tell me, macam mana nak enjoy private villa with private pool kalau bendera merah? HAHAHA.

Huda brought up this good and an informative topic once. So what I am going to write here is basically the same but more based on my experience.

I went to Vita Care and directly told the pharmacist my purpose. I want to delay my period due date in January because of the honeymoon trip. She suggested the Norcolut tablet, which purpose is to delay the menses. I bought 1 box of Norcolut which has 20 tablets and it costs about RM8.00. Murah je, takde lah mahal mana.

In order to delay my menses, I have to take 1 tablet of Norcolut 3 times daily - 3 days before the expected date of menstruation. Then continue taking it as many days that I wanted but no longer than 10 to 14 days.

Confused much? Ok, let me explain clearly.

Lets say expected period date is on 25th. 3 days prior to that which is on 22nd, dah start amik pill. 1 tablet for 3 times a day. Lepas tu on 23rd pun amik 3 times daily then continue sampai berapa hari yang kita nak. Tapi tak boleh lebih dari 10-14 hari as per instruction dekat leaflet tu.

Once you've stopped taking the pills, your period should come 2-3 days after that. This is what the pharmacist told me la. Your next cycle will follow the new one. Katakan stop makan on 28th, then 2-3 days after you've stopped which is on lets say - 30th. Then your next period is 28-30 days (or depends on your actual cycle) after the 30th. Sebab dah delay, jadi cycle pun delay jugak lah.

I asked about the side effects and all but the pharmacist said no major side effects. Some may experience bloating, a bit delay in menses and others which I already forgot. Hehe. But all the information is there to read in the leaflet. So no worries there.

If anyone curious and interested in delaying or inducing your menses, I'd say the best person to talk to is your nearest pharmacist. If you're shy to talk to male pharmacist, opt for female pharmacist. You can address your concerns to them and they will answer everything. From my experience, I find that pharmacists dekat Vita Care (any branch) are very helpful. When I got diarrhea the other day, I straight tell them that I need medicine to stop the diarrhea ASAP. Tanpa malu-malu ok. HAHA. Mana tahan weh, asyik pergi toilet dari pukul 3 pagi.

Okkkk, ni cerita pasal menses ke cirit-birit?

HAHAHAHA.
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07/05/2010

Diamonds Are A Girl's Best Friend

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A kiss may be grand but it won't pay the rental
On your humble flat, or help you at the automat
Men grow cold as girls grow old
And we all lose our charms in the end
But square cut or pear shaped
These rocks don't lose their shape
Diamonds are a girl's best friend
 
-Diamonds are a girl's best friend [Marilyn Monroe]
Gitu opening entry sudah jelas kelihatan materialistic nya. Well, I got a request from a reader saying that she knows nothing about diamond and such.

I am no expert either and since sharing is caring, I like to give back. Macam ala-ala Idols give back la uols.

Ok, when choosing a diamond, or diamond ring you need to know what your priorities are. I am sure most of the b2b are already expert and well-versed in the 4C criteria but fret not, I will still explain about it.

Ok, what are the 4Cs? Or for some like me, 5Cs. HA HA HA.

(Cash!), Cut, Clarity, Colour and Carat.

These are the characteristics that you need to know in choosing the perfect diamond ring for you.

I will explain in in layman language or according to my understanding la eh? Malas ko nak explain panjang-panjang.

Cash - no need to mention. Self-explanatory. HA HA HA.

Cut - not to be confused with shape. Look for the brilliant cut or triple excellent. But those with certificates normally fall under brilliant or triple excellent cut.

Clarity - is a measure of the internal defects of a diamond or inclusions. Most of these inclusion cannot be seen by naked eyes. Some certified diamond do include the position of the inclusion in their cert. I have seen one but I can't recall from which, it's either from IGI or AGS sebab I know GIA doesn't include it.

Colour - sila rujuk rajah dibawah. The color for diamond ranging from D for colourless to Z. Diamonds that are out of the scale normally refer to as fancy diamond. Macam engagement ring J.Lo tu colour pink. Mariah Carey if I'm not mistaken pun colour pink, eh ke canary yellow? Actually there's not much different between D, E or F to the naked eye. Even the jewelerer pun cannot differentiate between D and E coloured diamond without special equipment. If you don't have the budget to go for a D coloured diamond, go for E or F. The price different is about RM500, which is a lot if you don't have big budget.

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This is the most comprehensive diamond chart


Carat - is actually the measurement of weight not the size. Tapi biaselah, benda berat mestilah nampak besar tak? Macam orang la jugak kan. Tapi mana tau lah kan, kot ada orang kecil molek tapi berat ber-tan-tan? Ish, tu bela hantu raya ke ape. Ini, paling kecik ke paling besar. It's limitless, depends on your Cash and your personal taste. Haha. Kot kaya-raya bolehlah beli Hope Diamond. HA HA HA.

Ok, one of my friend tanya perlu ke beli diamond yang ada cert? Kalau takde cert tak boleh?

My answer would be, boleh but... how would you know the real value of your stone? As we all know, without the cert, a diamond is actually a stone. It's not that valuable. Besides, how would you know that the price you pay is worth your money and not totally the jeweler's workmanship?

Now that the 4C's is clear, it's time to set your priorities. Which one would you look for in your diamond (ring)? Is it the size that matters the most? Or the colour? Clarity? Cash? Like I said, it all depends to the individual.

As for me, my priorities are;

(Cash!) (aku cheapskate, so sadap! haha) > Cut > Carat > Colour > Clarity

We already got my bling but before I found the one, I tried on every possible rings that caught my attention. From 1 carat to 0.2c. At first of course la semua perempuan pun kalau boleh nak pau diamond besar-besar kan? Ala, mengaku jela. Jangan tipu! HA HA HA. I am no exception either. Kalau boleh less than 0.5c tu tanak pandang langsung ko! Kemain berlagak macam duit berkepul-kepul. But after I tried out every single ring, I realised that big bling is just not me. No doubt that I can carry big bling because I'm tall as per said by the SA but deep down I just know it's not right. I don't know how to express this properly but you know what they're saying right,

when you know, you just know.


And that's how I found THE one.


So, what's your preference?








Coming next, where to hunt for the one?.
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12/04/2010

Meeting The Designer

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Both fiancé and I met the designer for the first time on Saturday, last week.

I shall not reveal the designer's name because everything is not confirmed yet. Once it does, I will tell, ok?

Our appointment was supposed to be at 12 noon but due to unforeseen circumstances, *cough* bangun lambat *cough* it was postponed to 1.30pm. I bought along few print outs and inspiration pictures for my dress(es). We had to wait for few minutes because she had another appointment with one of her client *cough* Aishah Sinclair *cough*. Unfortunately we didn't bump into her. Massive disappointment.

We had a small chat and I showed the the pictures and explained how I envisioned my dress(es) to be. She jotted down the necessary info and give some feedbacks.

Initially I wanted the bottom part of the dress to be pleated. I have a "thing" for anything panel and pleated. Oh, and cutesy Peter Pan collar. But she advice me not to do the pleated bottom thingy as it will not turned out as flowy as I like it to be. It seems to me that she can read my mind! Not even once I mentioned that I want the bottom to be flowy. So no pleated bottom for me.

She will get back to me with the quotation, the proposed fabrics and sketches of the dresses (and veils!) by end of April or early May so I guess until then I just have to wait. But she assures me that the total price won't exceed 1.5k. Well, that's a relieved.

Some tips from her that I'd like to share:

  • If you're planning on hiring a designer to do your wedding dress(es). Please don't buy the fabrics beforehand. Some designers much prefer if they buy and use their own material. Sometimes the material you buy is not that suitable for the design that your heart's desire. In certain cases, the fabrics would be a waste if the designer refuses to use it. Another reason being, not all design or style use 4 meters of fabrics. Some only use 1-2 meters only e.g. lace.
  • If you have not buy the fabrics yet, discuss your preference and let them buy it for you. Designer can get the same fabrics at a much discounted price than we usually can get.
  • Always plan your time well. The ideal time to start meeting and discussing the design or sending fabrics to tailor is 5-7 months before the wedding. Ours is 8 months. A tad too early, I know but I can't help it. *Bridezilla alert*
  • Always come prepared. Know what you want beforehand is a plus. Designer can't read your mind. If you cannot convey your vision through sketching, bring photos of your dream dress.
  • Don't afraid to ask of what they think. Sometimes they do know better than you. Or what suits you the best.
  • If you want dresses other than in white, it helps to bring the desired colour palette.
  • Do not waste your money buying solstiss lace that costs your arms and legs. French lace is cheaper and beads can be sewed onto it. Besides, solstiss lace is difficult to cut and sew as the beads will interfere. It takes longer time for the designer to do your dress. Longer time = higher labour cost, hence you'll be charged more.
Oh, I can't wait to see the sketches!! I do hope that she can deliver exactly what I want.

P/s: Have you seen Hunny Madu's wedding dresses? Psst, the designer did all Hunny's and her bridesmaids' dresses.
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